How to Set Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty
Have you ever said yes when you truly wanted to say no?
You’re not alone.
Many of us struggle to set boundaries because we worry we’ll be seen as rude, selfish, or distant. But boundaries are not walls—they're bridges to healthier relationships and self-respect.
Let’s explore what boundaries really are, why they matter, and how to set them with confidence (and less guilt).
What Are Boundaries?
Boundaries are the limits we create to protect our emotional wellbeing, energy, time, and personal values. They help clarify what’s okay for us—and what’s not.
Types of boundaries include:
Physical boundaries: Personal space and touch
Emotional boundaries: What you share or take on from others
Time boundaries: How you use your time and availability
Digital boundaries: How and when you interact online or on devices
Why It’s So Hard to Set Them
Many of us are taught to put others first, even at the expense of our own needs. We might fear rejection, conflict, or being misunderstood. But when we ignore our own boundaries, it often leads to resentment, stress, or burnout.
How to Start Practicing Boundaries
Start small. Try saying “not right now” or “let me think about that.”
Use “I” statements. For example: “I need some quiet time after work.”
Prepare scripts. Having go-to phrases can ease the moment.
Check in with your body. Tension, dread, or fatigue can signal a crossed boundary.
Repeat and practice. Like any skill, it gets easier with time and use.
Examples of Healthy Boundaries
“I’m not available to talk about that today.”
“I need some alone time this evening.”
“I’d prefer to keep this conversation respectful.”
“I’m at capacity right now and can’t take on more.”
How Can We Help? – Boundary Setting
At Feelings First, we create a safe space for you to explore and practice boundaries that protect your peace. We work alongside you to identify where your energy is being drained and support you in building the confidence to speak your truth—without guilt.
Whether you're navigating relationships, work, or family dynamics, we’re here to help you honour your needs in a way that feels respectful and empowering.
You Deserve to Feel Safe and Respected
Setting boundaries isn’t selfish—it’s self-care. It helps create relationships built on mutual respect and understanding.
If you’d like support in learning how to set boundaries in your life, we’re here to help.
Take the first step. Book a free 15-minute consultation to talk through how you’re feeling and see if therapy might be a good fit and start building the space you need to thrive.
